Scripture Reading – Philippians 4: 2-3
Blog Title – Moments in Ministry
Blogging Niche – Christian and Ministry Bloggers
About Me -Woman Minister in the Church at Philippi.
Blog Excerpt –
Christian Conflict Resolution
There are people who avoid any and all conflict; instead they ignore the problem. This only leads to bigger problems in the future.
Sometimes avoiding arguments seems like ‘what a good Christian should do’. However, conflict can be handled without heated arguments that lead to personal attacks or painful divisions within the church.
After being involved in a public disagreement within our church and being gently rebuked by Paul, I sat down and thought hard about better ways to resolve issues.
Dos and Don’ts of Conflict Management:
Do –
- Pray about problem and solution.
- Pray for God’s wisdom and guidance.
- Pray for God’s outcome – that His will be done.
- Confront issues sooner rather than later.
- Confront in love.
- See your adversary as God sees him/her.
- Speak thoughtfully and encouragingly.
- Handle the matter privately.
- Agree to disagree.
- Compromise.
- Forgive.
Don’t –
- Sweep issues under the rug.
- Be afraid to address legitimate concerns.
- Make the issue about what you want – about what makes you happy.
- Gossip or spread lies and rumors.
- Belittle your adversary.
- Speak harshly.
Scripture Message –
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”Romans 12:18-20
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Have you been involved in an adversarial relationship with a fellow Christian or with someone within your church? How do you recommend handling conflict while remaining true to Christian values?